Government data only
Every figure traces to the US Census Bureau, the CDC, or the Bureau of Labor Statistics. We do not invent statistics or round them in our favor.
About us
The data behind honest dating standards
Dating Standards Calculator turns public US demographic data into an honest reality check on what people want in a partner. We are a small editorial team that cares about getting the numbers right and showing our work, every step of the way.
Our mission
Replace a loud argument with something you can check
The male and female delusion debate is everywhere online, and almost none of it cites a source. We built this tool to change that. Instead of trading opinions about whose standards are fair, you can enter real preferences and see the real share of the population that matches, drawn from the same datasets researchers use.
The result is not a verdict on anyone. It is a mirror. It shows which single filter shrinks a dating pool the most, so people can decide what actually matters to them and treat the numbers as a starting point for a better conversation.
8
core government datasets
262M
US adults modeled
7
real-world filters
5
countries referenced
Why you can trust our numbers
Every figure has a source you can verify
Trust is earned with citations, not adjectives. Here is how we keep the calculator honest.
Transparent methodology
The exact formula, every distribution, and each source year are published in full so anyone can check our work.
Measured, not guessed
Height and body-composition figures come from the CDC NHANES survey, which physically measures people instead of trusting self-report.
Updated and versioned
Each data table records its source and version, and we refresh the numbers when a newer government release lands.
How we work
Our editorial standards
Reviewed for accuracy
Every article and data table is checked against its primary source before it goes live, and figures are labeled as estimates where they are estimates.
Primary sources cited
We link the original Census, CDC, and BLS releases rather than second-hand summaries, so any reader can confirm a number at the source.
Corrected in the open
When a dataset updates or we find a mistake, we fix it and note the change. We never present the tool as medical, legal, or relationship advice.
What we stand for
The principles behind the tool
Privacy first
The calculator runs in your browser. Your answers never leave your device and are never sold.
Numbers, not shaming
A high score reflects rarity, not worth. We poke fun at bad math, never at people.
Free and open
No account, no paywall, and no data broker in the background. The tool is free to use.
Honest about limits
We say plainly what the tool cannot do, from local variation to real compatibility.
Questions about the data or the method?
We read every message and reply to genuine questions about our sources and calculations.
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